“She Used to be Pretty: Schoolyard Harassment goes Online”
Edutopia/June 2007
By Kaley Noon
The author talks about her experience conducting a workshop on cyber bullying with middle school girls. This demographic represents one of the highest users of online communication tools. She is surprised with the cruelty that is displayed on social networking sites with very little empathy. There have always been “mean” girls in the world, especially in this age range. Matters seem to have worsened, however, as their technical skills have become more sophisticated. One of the girls who happened to be a foster child came up to her after the meeting and needed help taking down her my space page because an ex- friend had stolen her password and written derogatory things about her sexuality on the page. She did not inform her foster parent about the incident. Many parents are not even aware that this type of harassment occurs. The author feels that the anonymity of cyberbullying worsens the behavior. Since they don’t see the damage directly as with a face- to- face confrontation, the perpetrators feel little remorse.
As an exercise, Kaley held up a picture of Britney Speers after she shaved her head and asked them to write on a piece of paper their thoughts about the picture as if they were texting a friend. When she peeked at some of the comments, she saw things like, “ She looks like a naked mole rat”, “She’s on drugs”, “Eww, she used to be pretty, but now look at her”.
She feels that the best way to curb his type of behavior is to show them the consequences of their actions, as well as to offer ethics training. Parents need to be aware of what their children are doing online. Schools need to set up anti-cyber bullying policies and enforce them. Right now only a handful of states have pending legislation on this matter. Other states need to step up to the plate as well.
By the end of her session, she noticed that a lot of girls seemed to get the message and they started scrubbing their pages of information that could be inappropriate. However, there was a group of girls laughing and whispering how they were going to place a caption on someone else’s page that said how ugly she was. Apparently the message did not get through to this group.
Kaley Noon is a program manager of Zoey’s room, an online education community for girls 10-14 to encourage interest in science, technology, and math
Questions:
1. What recommendations do you have for an educational program regarding cyberbullying. I think it needs to involve a comprehensive effort and either be part of an educational effort on bullying or in addition to any internet safety program. It can be led by the school counselor or a group of teachers and involve both the students and parents. The program should offer guidelines as to how to protect yourself online, including the tracking down of a bully by using the IP address. Consequences for bullies should be outlined. I assume that will help deter a lot of would- be bullies.
2. Many teachers feel that it is not their role to teach values and ethics, which this basically comes down to, and that it’s the parents. How do you feel about that issue?
I agree that many values such as these should be taught in the home, but that’s just not the case in many circumstances. Therefore, someone has to address it and I think the educational community should be involved and involve the parents in the effort. I think teachers need to think about what’s going to support our community of learners and take action accordingly.
Edutopia/June 2007
By Kaley Noon
The author talks about her experience conducting a workshop on cyber bullying with middle school girls. This demographic represents one of the highest users of online communication tools. She is surprised with the cruelty that is displayed on social networking sites with very little empathy. There have always been “mean” girls in the world, especially in this age range. Matters seem to have worsened, however, as their technical skills have become more sophisticated. One of the girls who happened to be a foster child came up to her after the meeting and needed help taking down her my space page because an ex- friend had stolen her password and written derogatory things about her sexuality on the page. She did not inform her foster parent about the incident. Many parents are not even aware that this type of harassment occurs. The author feels that the anonymity of cyberbullying worsens the behavior. Since they don’t see the damage directly as with a face- to- face confrontation, the perpetrators feel little remorse.
As an exercise, Kaley held up a picture of Britney Speers after she shaved her head and asked them to write on a piece of paper their thoughts about the picture as if they were texting a friend. When she peeked at some of the comments, she saw things like, “ She looks like a naked mole rat”, “She’s on drugs”, “Eww, she used to be pretty, but now look at her”.
She feels that the best way to curb his type of behavior is to show them the consequences of their actions, as well as to offer ethics training. Parents need to be aware of what their children are doing online. Schools need to set up anti-cyber bullying policies and enforce them. Right now only a handful of states have pending legislation on this matter. Other states need to step up to the plate as well.
By the end of her session, she noticed that a lot of girls seemed to get the message and they started scrubbing their pages of information that could be inappropriate. However, there was a group of girls laughing and whispering how they were going to place a caption on someone else’s page that said how ugly she was. Apparently the message did not get through to this group.
Kaley Noon is a program manager of Zoey’s room, an online education community for girls 10-14 to encourage interest in science, technology, and math
Questions:
1. What recommendations do you have for an educational program regarding cyberbullying. I think it needs to involve a comprehensive effort and either be part of an educational effort on bullying or in addition to any internet safety program. It can be led by the school counselor or a group of teachers and involve both the students and parents. The program should offer guidelines as to how to protect yourself online, including the tracking down of a bully by using the IP address. Consequences for bullies should be outlined. I assume that will help deter a lot of would- be bullies.
2. Many teachers feel that it is not their role to teach values and ethics, which this basically comes down to, and that it’s the parents. How do you feel about that issue?
I agree that many values such as these should be taught in the home, but that’s just not the case in many circumstances. Therefore, someone has to address it and I think the educational community should be involved and involve the parents in the effort. I think teachers need to think about what’s going to support our community of learners and take action accordingly.